So you don’t have to™

Yoli somewhat presciently noted that I was unlikely to want to see Wo Ai Ni Mommy.

And yet I did.  What can I say, it is on the internet. I’m much more likely to watch a documentary if I don’t have to change out of my pajamas.

I knew this film was going to be bad, but I refrained from saying so to avoid the grief I get despite the fact that I am always right.  For example, I saw this and it was maybe even worse than I predicted or could have imagined.  If that is even possible. And I was completely right about this book.  It even had those misspelled italicized phrases.

But people are always screaming “How can you criticize something when you haven’t even seen it/read it yet?”

Hey, I can tell it’s a duck before it walks or quacks.

And I knew this film was going to be maddening and infuriating and awful.  It was.  And in addition it was terribly heartbreaking and sad.  Continue reading

Being ‘different’

A white adoptive parent once came up to me after I had given a talk about interracial and intercultural relations.  I had prefaced my speech by explaining that I could not provide suggestions about handling any given situation.  Rather, my goal was to challenge the audience to learn to think about how they would like to respond.

But this parent wasn’t satisfied.  (And I note a number of other audience members apparently weren’t either, as evidenced by comments left on the evaluation form.)  She complained that I did not give her one concrete suggestion for how she might go about creating relationships with people who shared her daughter’s ethnicity.  And then she begged me to tell her just one thing that she should do.

So I told her to move to a diverse neighborhood.  Continue reading

Oh Canada!

The Canadian Broadcast Standards Council is not laughing about Radio-Canada’s controversial “Bye Bye 2008” New Year’s Eve sketch show, which drew criticism for its jokes about blacks and anglophones. One of the most outrageous sketches included an interview with a comedian suggesting Barack Obama would be easy to assassinate because the first black U.S. president would stand out against the White House.

Source. What did the show’s producer and writer have to say for themselves?

Veronique Cloutier and Louis Morissette, the producer and head writer of the “Bye Bye,” said in a rambling news conference at the height of the controversy that they aren’t racists and only intended to present an edgy comedy show.

They aren’t racists. Check! They’re edgy. Check!

What people of colour think

To all those involved in a love relationship with a person of colour,
(whether that be parental, romantic, fraternal or platonic)

We here at RR would like you to know that every time you condone racism, your SPOC (significant person of colour)

  • feels sad
  • feels alone
  • wonders, if you can have these feelings about others, how worthy you think s/he is
  • worries that if s/he called you on your racism, your love for him/her would suffer
  • wonders whether this is just a part of him/herself that s/he will have to hide
  • wonders whether one day her/his love for you will also suffer

Think about it. Act on it.

Just a note

If you decide to engage in language practice with me, and if I don’t happen to understand the gibberish that is drooling out of your mouth, it isn’t because I don’t speak the language very well.

Isn’t this one of the ultimate indicators of privilege?  When you live in some country for seven or eight months and then come home and try some bullshit lines on somebody and then assume (and verbalize) that it’s the other person who has a problem with the language?