“It was the best day, but a powerful day,” Kiernan recalls about the day she and husband Bob Lazeski adopted their daughter Anna from Anhui province. “As we passed rice fields and people with oxen it struck me that we were taking Anna from her culture.”
Probably not the best day for her, but whatever. Also, China isn’t just about rice fields and people with oxen. We have that here in the U.S. too, you know.
“Over the years we’ve done a lot to share ancient Chinese traditions with our families,” says Kiernan, who is also [Families with Children from China’s] current president.
Ahhh! Not ancient Chinese secrets, I hope!
“As they’ve (the adoptees) gotten older, they realize by the quirk of luck, they were lucky enough to hook up with their forever families,” says Mary Hammele, 52, of Fairport, co-chair of the Teen Group Fashion Show at FCC.
Apparently “hook up” doesn’t mean the same thing to Ms. Hammele as it does to me. But good thing they recognize their luck. We wouldn’t want any ungrateful adoptees. No sirree.
“We tell our families that ‘When you adopt internationally you are not just adopting a child, but a culture,’ ” says Kathryn Young, an adoption social worker at the Catholic Family Center. “Maintaining a child’s cultural heritage is a big part of the adoption process.”
Young says things adoptive families can do to help their internationally adopted child maintain their heritage are: travel to the child’s birth country, hang artwork from the native country in the home, prepare traditional foods and experience cultural events and activities like the fashion show.
No actual people are involved, however. Hey, I’ve been to England. I have some artwork from there. Also I can cook some of the traditional foods like fish and chips, plus I speak English. Never been to a fashion show, however. But it sounds like I’ve been maintaining my English cultural heritage. Except I haven’t got one.
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