Groundhog Day, again

Because we just keep hearing the same old thing over and over again:

Houston police officers Elizabeth Follis and Michael Skillern say they are ready to let their adopted daughter Olivia, six years old, attend Chinese language or traditional dance school anytime.

“She can go if she wants to,” Elizabeth said. “But so far, she has no interest. She’s pretty much an all-American girl.”

Asked about her favorite part of living in the United States, Olivia smiled and said, “Disney World.”

Yeah, it’s not like we haven’t heard it before.

Gentle readers!  What repetitive themes do you see in the adoption community?

2 thoughts on “Groundhog Day, again

  1. Yeah, it’s such a cop out, the underlying philosophy of “She’s the Chinese one, so it’s her responsibility to take the initiative to learn what that means.”

    You’re the *parent*. You wouldn’t say, for example, “She’s the grandchild, it’s her responsibility to build a relationship with my parents.” You make plans for your kid to see your parents, b/c you think it’s important for her to have that relationship. (Or, alternatively, you don’t make those plans, and then she learns that her grandparents — or her culture, race, etc. — are not important.)

    Which is not to say my husband and I do such an awesome job with “culture stuff.” My kid definitely identifies herself as Chinese and feels a connection with other people who are Chinese/Asian-American, and that seems pretty good for a three-year-old. Five years from now? I don’t know.

    And just this weekend we were at the history museum, and they have a section of the Greensboro lunch counter, and I fumbled through explaining why it was important — something about, “Some people sat at a lunch counter to protest unfair treatment,” or something like that, and we were down the hall before it occurred to me I should have just said *racism*, I should NOT shield her from the word *racism*.

    And then around the corner there was a statue of a black woman who was active in the civil rights movement, and a white couple got their black daughter (probably 3-y-o as well) to sit next to the statue for a photo. And I’m sure they thought they were doing something right, but they didn’t give her any context at all — just, “Sit here, baby,” and then the photo, and then they all moved on.

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