Possession is 9/10ths of the law

Quick summary: Undocumented worker picked up in raid and jailed for two years loses her child to adoptive parents who now claim the kid should stay with them:

The Mosers argue that even if their adoption wasn’t proper — which is key to Romero’s case — it wouldn’t be in the best interest of the child to take him away from the parents he knows now and send him to another country.

The adoptive father has a criminal background, according to this story.  And the adoptive parents hired an attorney to represent the interests of the mother.  Uh huh.  Shades of A.M.H. (Those of you who followed the case may remember the Bakers’ attorney provided counsel to the birth parents.  In the birth parents’ best interest, of course.)

Encarnacion Romero, the boy’s mother, indicated at least three times in writing that she did not want her son to be adopted.  One of those communications was to the attorney who had been hired by the adoptive parents to represent her interests.

But in any event, if you want somebody else’s kid it’s a good idea to maintain possession.  That way, you can claim that it isn’t in the child’s best interest to be taken away from the only home he knows.  Like when kids grow up in orphanages, that’s the only life they’ve known.

And of course it isn’t in a child’s best interest to take him out of an English-speaking household and place him in a Spanish-speaking household.  Because it’s too traumatic.  So people should never be allowed to move to other countries.  And children should not be adopted by parents who don’t speak their birth language.

Of course as an adoptive parent with a criminal history, you simply made a youthful mistake.  But somebody else who entered the country and stayed in violation of immigration law is an illegal who cannot be trusted with a child.  Especially if she doesn’t speak English.  Because children in the United States should always go to English-speaking parents.  Everybody knows that’s better for them.

Want a child?  Snatch one up from parents who lack power and privilege.  Save that child from an unimaginably horrific life with a criminal.  And remember–it’s in the best interest of the child.

6 thoughts on “Possession is 9/10ths of the law

  1. I seem to recall a number of cases in the U.S. where (white) adopted children were returned to the (white) birthmothers who changed their minds a couple years after the adoption. Apparently the “you can’t take a child from the only home zie knows!” defense falls apart when the birthmother is white, but stands strong as long as the birthmother isn’t. Surprise surprise.

  2. As an adoptive parent, this just makes me sick. What’s best for children it to stay with their first parents, as long as that home is safe. Despite the fact that my children came from poverty that is hard to fathom, I will always be a second best to the mother who held them first. And this is right and good, and doesn’t diminish my role one bit.

    What I hate most about the foster and adoption system is that children are treated as property. No matter how this story ends, it is the child who pays the highest price. He should have never been separated from his mother in the first place.

  3. I read about a case like this recently. I believe the father of the child stated from the day the child was born that he did not want his child to be given up for adoption, but the mother had already agreed to it. Even though he filed a claim for custody of his child within a month of the birth, the adoptive parents kept the child for several years. The last I heard the child was 3 years old, and the father was still trying to gain custody, while the adoptive parents were using the argument that the were the only home the child knew. I don’t know how the case turned out.

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