How it usually goes:
White adoptive parent* posts screed as first comment. Said screed may include, but is not limited to, ad hominem attacks, comments about angry people and a burning desire to tell off those folks of color.
[Comment is edited and white adoptive parent is directed to helpful links. Think of the children!]
White adoptive parent gets very angry and goes around the internet telling everybody that we are mean. And racist. And we are a very bad blog! Plus we are liars! And all they were doing was civilly disagreeing!
White adoptive parent writes long personal blog post about how they have tried really, really hard but they wrote a nice comment and those racist people of color wouldn’t publish it. Their blog readers commiserate. What’s a good white person to do? It’s so unfair.
Rinse and repeat.
Just once I wish somebody would surprise me.
*In all fairness (because we are nothing if not fair even though we are dark-skinned), there has been one white adoptive parent who apparently took something we said to heart. I also assume there are many who sit on their hands and don’t respond even though they have strong reactions. But dear heavens, must so many people be so predictable?