Fortune cookies are not Chinese.
“Exposure” is not enough. And it makes “culture” sound like chicken pox.
The internet may offer people more opportunities to learn. But you can lead an idiot to a web page, but you can’t make him think.
“Isn’t especially diverse” in a town that’s 96 percent white. Now that’s like saying I’m not especially kind to adoptive parents.
“Diversity” does not mean stuff. Diversity does not mean people of another color whom you proudly proclaim look different from you. (As opposed to all of us being different from each other.) Diversity means being challenged by meaningful difference and figuring out a way to gracefully deal.
And “inviting diversity” is easier if you aren’t living in a town that’s 96 percent white. GD and all that.
Tangrams will not help your kid become Chinese American. Neither will tea rituals. Not only that, but white people shouldn’t be teaching their idea of what Chinese people are like. Why aren’t any actual Chinese people involved in the teaching of Chinese culture in the adoption community?
Cultural immersion is not possible when you are not living within that culture.
And I’m not so sure that children feel the benefit of being part of a broader community, especially when their parents teach them that we’re scary and dangerous and not good enough to treat like equals.
But hey, it’s 2010.