Well, there’s always a first time

I was walking to my car and the white woman parked next to me was unloading a little Asian kid.

Do you know what she did?

She smiled and said hello.  No, really.

Hey folks, is it really that hard?

16 thoughts on “Well, there’s always a first time

  1. Is this the same person who didn’t acknowledge you on other occasions? Or was this an altogether new person?

  2. Is it that unusual for white women to smile and say hi? I’ve frequently thought it must be, because I get a lot of double takes & surprised looks when I do it. Or at least that’s what I hope… otherwise I must have lettuce in my teeth, or be trailing toilet paper or some other social faux pas.

  3. Yeah, it’s unusual for white people with kids of color to speak to or even acknowledge adults of color. Most of the time, they are studiously trying to avoid looking. Even in settings like language school. What I was remarking on was when what should be “normal” seems abnormal.

    Lori, this was someone I haven’t seen before. But I’ve had numerous occasions in which white people didn’t acknowledge.

  4. I would say “hi”!! I really would. As a matter of fact, I’d probably freak you out a little bit with my enthusiasm.

  5. LOL bets. I always worry that the poc I see on the playground while waiting for my son to get out of school might think I’m stalking them. . . Particularly since I started reading this blog, I go out of my way to smile and make eye contact at any person of color I encounter, and if I think we there might be a topic of mutual interest and you aren’t obviously distracted (eg talking on your cell phone)? Look out, I’m about to try to strike up a conversation. So, thank you, resistance. . . and I’m the chubby blond, smiling like a maniac hehe

  6. Wow, I use to think it was just me?! I live in Maine and practically give myself whiplash whenever I see another person of color. I frequently get the “ole stink-eye” from white women with biracial children…I dare to smile at their beautiful kids, what nerve huh? I think of when I was young and wondered if I’d ever see other kids that looked like me in my community…that’s one reason why I smile. I’m weird I guess because when folks smile at my children I smile back, I say hello but I grew-up in the South where we smile at practically everybody :D
    Glad that you had this experience and hopefully many more…of course it should always be like this.

    BTW: Great blog! I stumbled upon recently and really enjoy it :D

  7. Here’s a question that always kept me awake late at night: Why don’t White people use that fist jab/pound greeting more often?

    It’s one of the great mysteries of the universe.

  8. Because evil folks of color like me enjoy giving them a world of hurt when they do.

    Hey! Bring on more mysteries of the universe! I’m here all night!

  9. @curlykidz – YES! What is it with white people who think it’s okay to touch my baby’s hair? (sorry, i realize it’s off-topic to the post, but i’m white, my kids are biracial, and white people always comment and touch and it drives me insane)

  10. *looking out the window*

    Yeah, it’s bad when something that should be “normal” becomes bizarre because of its infrequency.

    Adults of color are often exoticized and petted as well. It’s downright creepy. Makes me think slavery had much longer reaching implications than we had ever thought.

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