No one told her

That her fifteen minutes should have been up a long time ago.  Because Anita Tedaldi went on the Today show and spun the same old story.  Because if you repeat it over and over again, you know it becomes true.

Interest in this story is pretty high, as her name is currently the #1 search term on the blog.  So I’ll save you all some time:

Dear Lisa Belkin and Anita Tedaldi
Where our sympathy lies
Trying out the new tag

Don’t blame me if you click and then you need some brain soap.  I’m still lathering, because the Today show used several pictures of “D” with a grinning Tedaldi.


13 thoughts on “No one told her

  1. she is making a profit from the disruption, i personally think every nickel she makes from this evil b* should go to “D”, it’s his story that she is SELLING. i feel like calling her a bad name, but i won’t.

  2. @kathy – co-sign

    The comments on this article scare me. Many of them are in the vein of “some adopted children/my adopted children are defective, and you should keep your receipt and take them back.” “In hindsight I should have sent my child back to the store, too.” Others are of the, “My acquisition was falsely advertised, and it’s not fair! If my product weren’t defective, if the label had been correct, the adoption would have been so much easier.” The comments are clear examples of adoption commodification.

  3. @kathy – double co-sign. She does have a book in the works that’s due out early next year.

    A lot of entitlement attitude being exposed.

  4. Incredible. She should be ashamed, and instead she continues to talk about this? What a cold, horrible human being.

    To go through with the “disruption” (which is not at all what this is) is one thing, but then to continually talk about it??? WHAT is going through her head exactly?

    I hope that poor boy is in a family who loves him now.

  5. Hi, first time visitor to this blog. We are preparing for the arrival of two children from Ethiopia. It really blows my mind, the kind of people we have met throughout the process, online and in parent groups: Saviors, collectors, righteous Christians, exhibitionists, etc. I am afraid of bonding issues, but at the same time I observe behavior on prospective parents that is indicative of future problems. In any case, I don’t have much to add, just agreeing with was was said above. Anita reminds me of Octo-Mom – how can you adopt a baby and follow-up with two consecutive pregnancies, not to mention the mostly absent Dad? Baby D never stood a chance.

  6. anyone dumb enough to be watching the today show in the first place is probably the kind of person who would be inspired by tedaldi’s heroic and brave story.

    I also read the article… phew. nothing beats a healthy serving of bullshit and a side of white privilege for lunch.

  7. @thinking – Why did you have to post the link to the Psych Today article and raise my blood pressure?

    The article’s author said: The baby had been abandoned, and was found by the side of a road. By the time he arrived in Tedaldi’s home, his head was flattened from months of being left lying in a crib all day at an orphanage, his legs were atrophied, he had developmental delays, and he ate his own feces.

    Me: See how defective this product was?!

    The author said: Perhaps Tedaldi was a stepping stone, enabling D. to find the setting of unconditional, committed, and endless love and care that he needed

    Me: When a non-white person abandons a child by the side of the road (if that’s even true) that’s damaging. When a white person abandons a child that’s a positive for the child and the white person is to be excused, defended, even commended. Note, nobody is calling his birthparents who left him by the side of the road or the ppl who left him in a crib all day stepping stones leading to a positive end.

    The author: Perhaps that’s why the responses have been so vicious, as heartbreaking as her story itself.

    Me: Yeah, condemning somebody for abandoning a child is just as bad as actually abandoning a child.

    The author: They confirm that there’s no one we love to hate and judge more than a mother we deem insufficiently maternal.

    Me: Anita wasn’t just insufficiently maternal – she abandoned her child

    The author: Lisa Belkin, the mothelode editor, piled on as well, with her primly smug judgment-trying-to-pass-itself-off-as-a-balanced-observation that “The agency who screened her should probably have rejected her” (As a devoted reader of the New York Times for the last two decades, I can say that Belkin’s sentence gave me a visceral, enraged sense of why people characterize the publication as elitist and condescending).

    Me: Yeah, the agency should have given D to a woman with an absentee husband, three kids — and no more sense than to add 2 more in the next two years. Because clearly such a woman can handle it.

    Author: For failing, and for having the nerve to write about it, she will be vilified–until we find another mother to judge.

    Me: No, for abandoning a child and then abusing his privacy and profitting from it she get’s recognized as a villain. It’s wonderful how you defend Anita. Where’s some sympathy for D?

  8. hah nice responses flower… I hate to sound so negative but people like the author of that article and tedeldi’s supports will never understand.

    and sorry resistance, something about those cheery morning news shows bother me, particularly the today show…

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