Okay, I realize you want to be an ally to people of color. Really, I try very hard to extend some empathy to some of you. And I know I talk a lot about race and racism, and I might quite possibly be the only person of color you know.
But I can’t do your work any more. I used to. You would call and ask long questions and I would help you. I would give you references, I would loan you books, I would spend lots of time writing e-mail with helpful suggestions. And then what?
YOU NEVER FUCKING BOTHERED TO TELL ME WHAT HAPPENED OR WHETHER YOU EVEN IMPLEMENTED ANY OF MY SUGGESTIONS!
Yah, I’m done.
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April 29, 2008 at 5:34 am
A
Oh, you said FUCKING! How rude!ˇ
April 29, 2008 at 4:02 pm
resistance
One of those things where action is better than words.
April 29, 2008 at 4:41 pm
more cowbell
Cookie for you! ;-)
April 29, 2008 at 7:41 pm
macon d
Right.
As a white guy, I’m learning that my people oughta do their own work, not just in terms of learning about “others,” but about THEMSELVES.
May 10, 2008 at 1:55 am
pinkpoppies
For what it is worth, I have lurked and read through the archives. I think the Racism 101 post is fabulous in that it gives me something to think about everyday and then look at my own past and future actions in a more critical light. I have also been clicking through your links and those of others. I don’t tend to say much about what I am learning because I really don’t want to be seen as “begging for a cookie.” Unpacking my own internalized racism is hideously challenging, and there are many days when it’s a struggle to look into the mirror that is this blog and others in reflecting the impact of racism in and from the dominant culture. But I do it anyway, because if I don’t, I couldn’t look at myself in my own mirror either. Pink